Depression and Suicide

Warning signs of suicide

• The older person is depressed and feels the situation is hopeless.
• The depressed older person talks about wanting to end his life to “relieve the pain” or “solve my problems.”
• The older person describes the way (plan) he has to kill himself.
• Unusual behavior on the part of the depressed older person that is sudden or dramatic change—he/she doesn’t act like his/her usual self.
• The person may give away personal belongings in preparation.

When suicidal risk is high

• They have a specific plan—the more specific the higher the risk.
• They have easy access to carrying out their plan (gun, pills, car, train tracks, etc.).
• They are isolated, cut themselves off from others.

Communicating with your loved one about suicide

Older adults who are risk for committing suicide often have a plan, and it is important to remember that the older person usually gives clues about his/her intentions to end his/her life and that attempts are usually planned in advance.

If you fear your loved one may be planning suicide, it is important to ask the following questions:

• Do you feel that life is no longer an option for you?
• Have you had any thoughts about harming yourself?
• Are you planning to harm yourself?
• Is there a collection of pills or guns in the house?

If your care recipient answers “ yes” to any of these questions, they may be potentially suicidal. Actively remove any pills or weapons and call your family doctor or a mental health professional.

If possible, have the person sign an agreement saying that they will not proceed with their plan for a set period of time. This will give you time to get help.

Contact the Friendship Line, which is a 24-hour support line for seniors (800.971.0016) located in California.

Where to go for help

• If the person is in imminent danger, call 911 for emergency help or take him/her to the emergency room.
• If you think the person is in danger but will not act right away, call your loved one’s doctor or counselor as soon as possible.
• Consult with local agencies and suicide prevention centers.